We, at Parents Toolshop® — well, actually every parenting division of our parent company, Relationship Toolshop® International Training Institute, LLC — adhere to and promise to only teach you “evidence-based, trauma-informed best practices” in parenting. Yes, even if your child does not have a known trauma history, it’s important you know and use these parenting practices, which are all evidence- or research-based. Here’s why and why you need to understand the difference so you can screen other parenting programs and resources and discern whether... (Read More ...)
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The Problem with “I-messages” – Even effective tools can be misused and made ineffective. “In many ways, effective communication begins with mutual respect,[it’s] communication that inspires, [and] encourages others to do their best.” — Zig Ziglar, one of the world’s most successful motivational speakers What it’s Like Being Raised with Traditional I-messages You might know that I’m a second-generation parenting educator. So while I was growing up, my parents taught parenting classes at our church, where my mother was the Director of Christian... (Read More ...)
As conscious parents, you have good intentions, but creating and keeping balance seems to take more effort and energy than you have and it feels like you are always one step behind. You wouldn’t trade your children or your life, but do feel guilty that you aren’t more calm, centered and present. You don’t want to be one of those perfect super-hero parents, or let your kids run wild while you zone out in the lotus position! You just want to live a more balanced life with children. Well you can, and the first step is to get into the “Balanced” zone with your parenting style. Parenting... (Read More ...)
Are you a Conscious Parent or interested in conscious discipline for parents? (Here is an article with a conscious definition.) If so, then you need to be aware of some myths and misinformation “out there,” steering conscious parents into some practices that sound good, but can cause big problems later on. For example, parents will ask conscious parenting experts legitimate questions about how to handle common parenting challenges. They are seeking practical how-to, step-by-step responses that teach conscious discipline techniques. What they get are responses from conscious parenting experts... (Read More ...)
Your children probably have a way of “pushing your buttons,” even if it’s not their intention to do so (at least not at first). When they do, you probably get angry, even if you don’t show it. How would you like to get rid of them!? No, not your children! The trigger buttons! Bless Your Trigger Buttons Look, your children didn’t create your trigger buttons, they just discovered them. (If you want to know how they got programmed in and what happens when they get pushed, watch the free “Trigger-Free Parenting” webinar on the Parents Toolshop® YouTube channel. So why get angry... (Read More ...)
Are you Really a Conscious Parent? Here are 5 Little-known facts that play a BIG role in your parenting.
Are you Really a Conscious Parent? 5 Little-known Facts that play a BIG role in your Parenting Have you ever thought about when you started your parenting journey? It wasn’t when you became a parent, but when you were born and your parents became parents. Your parenting decisions are based on your beliefs, most which are programmed in at a very early age, based on how you were parented, as well as other experiences you had, mostly as a child. You probably already know that, but did you know these five surprising facts? Fact #1: Between ages 0-6, brain scientists say children’s brain... (Read More ...)
Do you consider yourself to be a Conscious Parent? It probably depends on your definition, right? The Conscious Parents Toolshop® defines conscious parenting from a 4-D perspective, looking at the following four aspects: Which mind are you using when you parent: the conscious or subconscious mind? The subconscious mind operates on old programming, where the conscious mind can learn about parenting and be aware or conscious about parenting choices and responses. Do you believe parenting is possibly the most important job you may ever have and want to educate yourself and get training to do the... (Read More ...)
Effective Communication Skills: How Can I Use Verbal and Nonverbal Communication Skills To Talk So Children Listen?
Effective Communication Skills: How Can I Use Verbal and Nonverbal Communication Skills To Talk So Children Listen? Jennifer has 3 children ages 8, 12, and 16. She struggles getting any of them to listen and cooperate. Any time she tries to have a conversation with one of them about what needs done, they mumble or give her some teen code she has to look up, like “IKR Mom! D” (Translation: “I Know, Right.”) Later, when they don’t do what she asked, she wonders whether they didn’t understand what she meant or she didn’t understand their coded language! At times, she... (Read More ...)
Effective Problem Solving Strategies: How Do You Teach Children To Responsibly Solve Their Own Problems?
“I don’t know what’s up with my friends lately. It seems they never have time to hang out and do anything I think will be fun,” David complains to his mom, Chloe. “Well there is so much you can do on your own, David. What do you need your friends for? Why don’t you go read one of those books from the library or practice your guitar?” Chloe suggests “Agh, Mom, you just don’t understand. Don’t you know what it’s like to want to hang out with your friends anymore?” David asks “Well, if they don’t want to do the things you like, then what kind of friends are they? ... (Read More ...)
“I want more juice!” demands Eric, Ashley’s four-year-old son, from the dinner table. Ashley politely replies, “Please don’t talk to me like that. Say ‘please.’” Then Eric starts to whine, “But Mom, I’m thirsty! I want more juice!” Ashley tries to be patient and says, “Honey, I know, just say ‘please.’” Now Eric’s whining becomes an ear-piercing scream. He throws his fork, shoves the table and stomp his feet. Frightened by Eric’s outburst, Ashley quickly gets him a glass of juice and says “Okay, okay. Calm down. Next time please ask nicely.” This incident... (Read More ...)