Are you Really a Conscious Parent?
5 Little-known Facts that play a BIG role in your Parenting
Have you ever thought about when you started your parenting journey? It wasn’t when you became a parent, but when you were born and your parents became parents.
Your parenting decisions are based on your beliefs, most which are programmed in at a very early age, based on how you were parented, as well as other experiences you had, mostly as a child.
You probably already know that, but did you know these five surprising facts?
Fact #1: Between ages 0-6, brain scientists say children’s brain wave frequency is similar to an adult in a hypnotic trance. So whatever they hear, see, and feel gets programmed right into the subconscious mind, without any filtering or choice.
Read that paragraph again… And one more time, to process the implications of that! You probably have noticed they are little “sponges,” but probably didn’t realize just how much they soak up!
This one, little-known fact has a BIG influence on how you are delivering your parenting, through your thoughts, words, and actions, and on how your children are receiving you as a parent! (For more information on this, see a video on Conscious Parenting from “What If? The Movie,” featuring Dr. Bruce Lipton and Dr. Joe Dispenza)
Fact #2: The meaning children give an experience is primarily determined by their cognitive and emotional development. So infants interpret their world through the lens of whether an experience shows they can trust. Toddlers who are becoming self-aware and are ego-centric interpret experiences as though they are at the center of them, as in “Whatever happened must be my fault.” Etc.
Fact #3: This subconscious programming becomes your operating system (OS), like Windows, Apple or Linux are for computers. It runs on auto-pilot, in the back of your mind, like an 8-track tape that keeps looping.
Fact #4: The function of your brain is to replicate your OS programming. There are parts of your brain, like the Reticular Activating System, that filter out and reject any belief or fact that doesn’t fit your OS!
Fact #5: Brain researchers estimate that most subconscious programming is negative and it controls the average person’s thoughts, feelings and habits, about 97-99% of the time. So that means that despite your good intentions and efforts, you aren’t usually consciously choosing your responses!
That’s why you might react to your children and say to yourself, “Oh, my gosh! I can’t believe I just said that! That was what my mom/dad used to say. I said I’d never say that to my children.” Then a self-inflicted guilt trip often begins, which is also usually part of your childhood programming.
The good news is that you can choose your parenting beliefs and use a parenting style based on the outcomes you want, not old habits. This is the first step to intentionally re-programming your beliefs and learning new language and action skills, so your thoughts, words and actions are all in alignment.
The bad news is that unless you work with someone to help identify and rewrite these subconscious beliefs, you likely won’t recognize what isn’t true or even see what’s hidden in your subconscious mind. This doesn’t involve someone telling you want to believe or talking you into something untrue. It involves learning more about how your mind works, then using that information in an intentional way, along with tools and techniques you can use yourself to choose and rewrite your own beliefs!
So where can you learn these teachings, tools and techniques? In The Conscious Parents Toolshop® online course.
The course includes group coaching to discuss these mind-blowing concepts and applying what you learn to your family. You can also get private coaching to become an even more conscious parent, from a practitioner who uses proven-effective, cutting edge tools for helping you find and rewrite your subconscious programming.
Get more information (and see more free preview videos at the bottom of the page) at https://parentstoolshop.comhttps://relationshiptoolshop.podia.com/pt-programs-old/online-courses/cpt-online.
Jody Johnston Pawel is a Licensed Social Worker, Certified Family Life Educator, Certified Trauma Support Specialist, Certified World Class Speaker Coach, is one of the first Certified Family Life Coaches to qualify at the Expert Level, and received the 2024-25 Margaret E. Arcus Award for Outstanding Family Life Educator by the National Council on Family Relations. She is also the author of the award-winning book The Parent’s Toolshop® and over 100 research-based parenting curricula, programs, and resources. She’s a top-rated speaker who has trained over 100,000 parents and professionals and has certified over 100 Parent’s Toolshop® trainers and coaches worldwide. She serves as a parenting expert to the media, with 300+ media appearances, and was the Assistant Producer and On-air Parenting Expert of the Emmy-nominated Ident-a-Kid television series. Connect with her online on social media or use the “contact” pages at any of her websites or her e-library. A good place to start is https://RelationshipToolshop.com
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